pekem said:Jules,
I think you are exagerating a little there
Anyway, you need to check the incremental scale on the light control. Starting from the Auto position you will see the line markers which control the duration of delay.
That's all very clear in my head but if you just fiddle with it you will find it will work well for you.
That delay switch is for them turning off after you leave the car when they have been on not for self activation.